4 Signs You’re The Loner On The Team

Being a loner has never been known to be a good thing. It may have worked for John Bender and Jason Dean, but that’s high school, and those where characters from movies (extra points if you know which ones).

These days, organizations are touting the need for collaboration so much so that it could send even the most extroverted person running towards a dark corner with their headphones and laptop.

The workplace should be designed to evoke collaboration and make good use of today’s open floor plans, long communal tables and oversized bean bags so you can cozy up to your coworker, plug in and power away. The benefits of collaboration are too long to list but I love this graph containing the 12 habits of highly collaborative organizations which came from this excellent Forbes article:

Collaboration as a team will require all individuals to come together and make equal efforts to do their part. Having a loner (or lone wolf as some people like to call it) immediately puts the team at jeopardy and signals that there is both a breakdown in communication, management as well as a potential derailment in the near future.

It’s important to remember that part of our human condition is the desire and need to interact with others. For loners, their desire to interact is simply lower than most and they find their enjoyment when focusing on singular activities that require their utmost concentration, such as work. Remember, it’s not that they dislike people – they would just rather work on “work” versus building social relationships.

Obviously, there will be times where you’ll need to find that quiet corner, sleep pod, nook, room, bench, tree or even your car to hammer out that email, finish up your report or take a call, but be careful…lingering too long in any one place could send mixed message to your team labeling you as a loner, something you don’t want.

Here Are 4 Common Signs You’re A Loner On Your Team:

  1. You hate attending team meetings/outings. Loners struggle to be both in a group setting as well as discussing topics that they believe could be solved or resolved by some other means. They despise small talk and find the social banter annoying.
  2. You don’t like to share your ideas. The thought of sharing your inner most self with others is enough to have you run for the door. Loners sometimes feel that sharing their ideas is a deep violation of intellectual property rights. These are your ideas and the thought that you would open yourself up to ridicule is unconscionable.
  3. You don’t eat with your team. Remember collaboration isn’t just critical to the project, it’s also important to the team dynamic. That means whenever possible, even at lunch time to bond, build and spend time with those you most likely spend the most time with. Regardless of the impact having a lunch with your peers can provide, loners would rather eat alone and be left in deep thought.
  4. You resist sharing information and responsibility. Loners would rather work by themselves even at the risk of over working themselves into a frenzy before ever considering reaching out to their team. Their standards are so specific that no one could live up to the bar they have set forth for themselves.

Final thoughts:

Technology today has enabled us to pretty much work from anywhere and with a growing remote workforce, you have the recipe for both lateral and literal movement. Even remote workers are not absolved from being labeled a loner. In fact, being remote puts more of the onus on them to show up and be engaged when they are needed most. We all need our space from time to time to gather our thoughts, make a private call or simply gather our thoughts. As Einstein once said:

  • Be a loner. That gives you time to wonder, to search for the truth. Have holy curiosity. Make your life worth living.

The key is to not let these private moments become a daily ritual that slowly pushes you further from your team.

The floor is yours: How do you foster collaboration on your team?

Please leave your comment below as your insights are greatly appreciated and a learning opportunity for everyone reading this article.

With leadership,

Joshua / www.JoshHMiller.com

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I Wrote 200 LinkedIn Articles

If you had asked me if I was planning to write more after publishing my first LinkedIn article “I’ve Got Two Words For You” on March 4th, 2015, my answer would have been a resounding no. But a funny thing happened shortly after I hit submit. I saw my first comment from a reader named Hiram Figueroa who wrote, “Now that’s real talk.”

Thank you, Hiram, and for each and every one of you who have kept your minds, hearts, and commentaries freely flowing all these years while encouraging me to provide you with valuable and inspiring content.

Keeping it “real” is all I know how to do which is why I wanted to make “you” the subject of my 200th article. If you look (very, very) closely, you will find your name below.

I thank each and every one of my connections and followers and wish you and yours the happiest of holidays and a powerful and prosperous new year.

With gratitude, leadership and of course no bullshit – Joshua

PS: Yes, these are 100% the names of all my LinkedIn connections, and yes it took a long time to create…but you are 100% worth it.

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With Leadership,
Joshua
www.JoshHMiller.com

Joshua Miller

Joshua Miller is a creative leader and impactful executive coach.

His career spans both the advertising world and the world of leadership. In advertising, he was the creative lead, responsible for the campaign strategy for Fortune 100 brands. Today, he is an innovator. He’s supporting the executive development and change management for many of the same companies.

Joshua studied at Syracuse University, NYU and Stanford. He combines that background with his deep knowledge of organizational behavior, performance and change management. He focuses on the analysis, design, development, delivery, and evaluation of scalable and global talent development solutions programs.

Joshua is a Master Certified Coach. He trained with the International Coaching Federation and CTI (The Coaches Training Institute).

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Without You, None Of It Would’ve Happened

I decided to skip writing my final article of 2016 around the usual goals, commitments and “how to stick to habits in the new year” and instead opt for what resonates most in my heart which is my sincere and heartfelt gratitude. Specifically around you – the reader.

I am grateful that you chose to take valuable time out of your day to read my articles over the past 365 days.

Thank you to everyone who followed me this past year and trusted me as a source of inspiration, motivation and in some cases contemplation.

Without your ongoing messages of support, admiration, insight and criticism – none of it would’ve happened.

Wishing you and your families a Happy Holidays and Joyful New Year.

With continued leadership in 2017,

Joshua /www.JoshHMiller.com

disappointment with Linkedin

Goodbye Linkedin…

Dedicated to the 35,312 followers who were removed from my account in the middle of the night. I am sorry this happened without your permission. 

A few weeks ago I wrote an article titled “Make Linkedin Great Again” outlining my frustration and disappointment with the platforms policy regarding connectivity and followers. I want to reiterate that this post is not a rant nor for anyone who believes I am standing on a soapbox whining about LIONs share of followers. This is a post directed to all the incredible people who woke up this morning who have been following me for the past two years and who may no longer have access to read what I post/write. 

At a time where our world is unstable, uncertain and parts are intolerable, I have always looked to Linkedin and the people in my network as something stable, certain and engaging. I watch the news and my heart breaks for what’s happening around the world. I committed myself to supporting and growing my network and followers week in and week out so that I could reach as many people as possible with the hopes of putting a smile on their face, a spring in their step and a spark in their personal and professional development.

We live in a world of choices and once again I find myself at an impasse. Stick with a platform and service (which I pay for) that no longer serves me, values me or I my connections or move on.

Today I am sorely disappointed with Linkedin for falling short in their promises to be a catalyst for connections, as this feels more like a dictatorship than a relationship.

With a heavy heart as this may be my last article for a while,

Joshua

I would say “follow” me if you’d like to but I don’t think that’s possible. 

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Make Linkedin Great Again (Please)

It’s with a heavy and conflicted heart I write this post today. I have actually been sitting with this post, my feelings and this particular topic for a while now.

I want to be clear and upfront on a few key items:

  1. I am not condoning, endorsing or recommending anything.
  2. I have never misused or abused Linkedin or its platform in any way. That means no spamming, selling, stalking or phishing other members.
  3. I have been a Premium Paying Customer for many years and love what this platform “can” do for myself and others like me in the professional arena.

I do however firmly believe in getting what I pay for in life and understanding and recognizing what that “value” is and what’s attached to that value before moving forward (or in this case being a paying Premium Member).

This brings me to why I am writing this post. I am seriously conflicted after I received the letter below which I also believe many others received.

It would appear from this letter that I have surpassed the 30k connection mark. This is not new news to me but what did come as a shock was the policy and process in which I am now being told and enforced around this limit.

The item that really stung was the sign off:

“Thanks for being a valued Linkedin member”

  • What value?
  • Whose value?
  • How are you defining value?

If I go to a restaurant and order a 3 bean salad, I assume there will be 3 different beans – not 3 beans total. If I pay for premium gasoline, I am expecting top grade quality. If I am going to an all inclusive resort – you better believe I researched what’s included and what’s extra.

Herein lies the issue, problem and ultimately the challenge. 

I did my homework and read the policies. In fact, I have read them several times and nowhere did I see any mention of being penalized for making connections over the 30k threshold. I do however understand there are plenty people out there that abuse this platform daily. I am not one of those people nor intend to be.

Now for the naysayers and anti-LION people out there. I want to be clear that my disappointment is not with the number of connections allowed as much as it is with “how” it’s being addressed. I find the letter to be personally dismissive and upsetting to read.

For every single one of my 65k+ connections I have made, not once I have abused that honor or partnership and in fact – have committed myself to be an active voice on Linkedin through the following channels:

  • Daily motivational posts/quotes
  • Sharing articles I believe to be supportive around personal and professional success
  • Writing weekly Pulse Articles on topics I believe will uplift others
  • I reply to every sincere and professional message I receive and make numerous introductions for others within my network everyday


So fast forward to today, I sit here perplexed as to what to do with the loss of more than half of my valued and valuable network but more to the point – wondering if my being valued to Linkedin is an equal exchange.

Right now, it feels value is one-sided and I have a choice to make – like we all do each and every day which is to either opt in or opt out.

I haven’t truly made up my mind but I am hopeful someone at Linkedin will read this and understand that if you truly value your customers, than your actions should speak louder than your words.

More to come….

The floor is yours:
How do you feel about this topic?

Let’s please have an honest, open and professional dialogue 

Please leave your comment below as your insights are greatly appreciated and a learning opportunity for everyone reading this article.

With leadership,
Joshua
www.JoshHMiller

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100 Movies To Motivate, Inspire and Promote Learning and Leadership

Finding inspiration to draw from can (and should) come from all walks of life and experiences but, if you find yourself looking for a good (or possibly great) book or movie to watch it can become incredibly overwhelming with all the titles and avenues to find them. Lucky for you, I have done a lot of the research for you. Below is a list of 100 movie titles to motivate, inspire and promote some personal and professional growth for you and your life.

As I researched this list, it became abundantly clear (and rather fast I might add) that this list is by no means conclusive and in fact there are probably hundreds more titles that exist that didn’t make the cut as well as versions of these movies that may prove a better read in book form.

If there is something or someone missing, please add it to the list so everyone else can benefit and enjoy!

 

1. The Shawshank Redemption 

2. Forrest Gump 

3. It’s a Wonderful Life 

4. To Kill a Mockingbird 

5. Gandhi 

6. Schindler’s List 

7. The Blind Side 

8. Rocky 

9. Dead Poets Society 

10. A Beautiful Mind 

11. Saving Private Ryan 

12. Braveheart 

13. Rudy 

14. Apollo 13 

15. The Karate Kid 

16. Rain Man 

17. The Sound of Music 

18. Field of Dreams 

19. Chariots of Fire 

20. Miracle on 34th Street 

21. Hoosiers 

22. Erin Brockovich 

23. Hotel Rwanda 

24. One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest 

25. 12 Angry Men 

26. Seabiscuit 

27. The Wizard of Oz 

28. Dances with Wolves 

29. Fiddler on the Roof 

30. The Miracle Worker 

31. The Ten Commandments 

32. E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial 

33. Casablanca 

34. Glory 

35. Mr. Smith Goes to Washington 

36. Driving Miss Daisy 

37. Stand and Deliver 

38. The Pursuit Of Happyness

39. Philadelphia 

40. Ben-Hur 

41. Searching for Bobby Fischer 

42. The Diary of Anne Frank 

43. The Right Stuff 

44. Ray 

45. Gone with the Wind 

46. Star Wars 

47. On Golden Pond 

48. The Bridge on the River Kwai 

49. Babe 

50. 8 Mile 

51. The Best Years of Our Lives 

52. Spartacus 

53. Yes Man 

54. Close Encounters of the Third Kind 

55. The Grapes of Wrath 

56. Warrior

57. On the Waterfront 

58. Pinocchio 

59. Cool Hand Luke 

60. Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner 

61. The Pride of the Yankees 

62. The Day the Earth Stood Still 

63. Sergeant York 

64. An Officer and a Gentleman 

65. Friday Night Lights

66. Into the Wild 

67. In the Heat of the Night 

68. The Black Stallion 

69. Lawrence of Arabia 

70. City Lights 

71. Harold and Maude 

72. Serpico 

73. Coal Miner’s Daughter 

74. Shane 

75. A League of Their Own 

76. Lilies of the Field 

77. High Noon 

78. Norma Rae 

79. The Verdict 

80. About A Boy

81. The Color Purple 

82. 61* 

83. Breaking Away 

84. National Velvet 

85. The Runaway Bride 

86. Dark Victory 

87. The Killing Fields 

88. Depatures 

89. The Defiant Ones 

90. Chasing Mavericks 

91. Sullivan’s Travels 

92. What’s Love Got to Do with It 

93. The Paper Chase 

94. Fame 

95. Yankee Doodle Dandy 

96. Mrs. Miniver 

97. Birdman of Alcatraz 

98. Meet John Doe 

99. Gunga Din 

100. Life Is Beautiful 

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30 Things The Internet Can Teach You For Free (& Where To Find It)

1. Learn a new language
In case you ever want to ditch the translation book, or just order food at your favorite taco joint with classy authenticity, head over to Duolingo for a totally free alternative to night classes or Rosetta Stone.
2. Learn the basics of psychology from a Yale professor
If you are trying to understand why your girlfriend says she’s not hungry, when you know she definitely wants you to take her out to dinner, try out this Intro to Psych class from one of the most renowned professors in the entire world. It probably won’t save your relationship, but at least you’ll know why.

3. Learn how to code
In today’s world of teenage dot-com millionaires, coding is an extremely valuable skill. Just look at how many jobs have “HTML knowledge is a plus” on their descriptions. Luckily, there are resources like Codecademy to give newbies a place to learn and practice their coding skills. 24 million people have joined. That’s 24 million people that are already ahead of you. Get on it!

4. Learn to manage your money competently
Making money is useless if you don’t know how to manage it. With an app like Mint, you’ll learn to take control of your finances, while getting all the necessary tools to maintain and exploit your newfound knowledge in the process. All for the low, low price of absolutely nothing.

5. Take a Harvard course on American Government
There is no other American school with the sterling reputation of Harvard University (despite what those Yale guys have to say). That’s why they’re the only people I’d trust to fill me in on American Government, a course you can take for free through their open course channel. You know who went to Harvard? Natalie Portman. That’s good enough for me.

6. Speak in public, without freaking out
Public speaking is the number one fear for Americans. That means most people would rather be inside of a casket than delivering a eulogy (thanks to Jerry Seinfeld for that one). With this course available online via the University of Washington you can learn to deliver a competent public speech, without falling flat on your face.

7. Learn to play guitar
As someone who has been playing guitar for over a decade, I can assure you the hardest part is learning the basics. To start you off, or get you over a tough learning “plateau,” you can turn to Justin Guitar or Ultimate-Guitar for interactive lessons and easy-to-use tablature (sheet music, for people who can’t read sheet music) that will have you melting faces in no time.

8. Take photographs like a professional
Photography is halfway between a science and an art. So essentially, it’s hard as hell. There’s no shame in asking for a little help while you are trying to up your Instagram game, and with this free course from MIT, you can learn the basics of photography from some of the guys that make the world turn.


9. Brew your own beer
The only thing more delicious than a beer you went out and bought, is a beer that came from your own hop-stained hands. The guys at HomeBrew Academy have set up a resource that will get you started in the world of home brewing, with everything you need to know about making a tasty, scandalously-named IPA, for your eyes only.

 

10. Learn Economics and Physics from MIT professors
MIT is known for being the school where the people who make everything you care about go to pull elaborate pranks. And maybe get an education, I guess. So when you get the chance to learn about Econ, or Astrophysics from some of the certified geniuses that teach there, you should probably take it.

 

11. Cook chef-caliber meals
If you are attempting to be a fully functional adult, you should learn to cook a decent meal or two. And if you are going to learn to cook a decent meal or two, you might as well go full Bourdain and learn to cook like a freakin’ chef. Allrecipes is a great resource for…um…all the recipes you’ll ever need. While the free section of the site is more than enough to keep amateur-Batalis at bay, there’s also a comprehensive “cooking school” for those willing to shell out some shekels. Time to bring that bacon home, and cook it, too.


12. Take a full college course on gardening
If your green thumb has turned pitch black, check out this full college course on Botany from Oregon State, now available in its entirety online. If you don’t have the most bitchin’ cherry tomatoes on your block, how do you even sleep at night?


13. Become fluent in sign language
I took sign language in college, and I’ve been amazed at how handy it has become in my life. It’s one of those things (like condoms) that you never think you’ll need, until you really, really need it. The ASL Browser was created by Michigan State to provide an online portal for anyone to easily learn sign language, online. As was LifePrint, another reliable online outlet to learn ASL.

14. Learn to knit better than your grandmother
Knitting may not be considered the most macho of skills to be learned, but you know what’s manly as hell? Knitting your own jet-black wool sweater, with a big middle finger on it, and wearing it all winter as a big F-U to mother nature. This step-by-step guide to knitting by Instructables will deliver grandma-level knitting skills in a matter of weeks.


15. Learn how to invest your money in stocks
You probably haven’t been investing in stocks much. Which is probably why you don’t have stacks of Scrooge McDuck-style money to dive into. Investopedia may sound like a debilitating stomach disease, but it’s actually an excellent resource to introduce yourself to the world of stock investing. Always be selling. Or maybe buying? I’m not sure. Consult the site.

16. Brush up on your math skills
Whether you are helping your little brother study up for a test, or just really embarrassed that you can no longer do basic multiplication and division in your head (thanks a lot, smart phones), you can brush up on your arithmetic skills with the aptly-named Shmoop, a site that gives you infinite math drills and/or lessons, and allows you to track your progress. So you can watch yourself go from “grossly inefficient” to “slightly-below-average.”

17. Take a course in proper pet training
No one likes a poopy pet or a ball-sack biter, so make sure your little fur ball is a well-behaved pooch with Dog Training Central, a comprehensive online database of doggie lessons and tips for pet owners, with accompanying videos in most areas. It’s the second-best thing you’ll read about dogs all day.

18. Make your own GIFs
If you have an excellent video of your Uncle Marv falling off the stage at your cousin’s wedding into a pot of flaming hot New England Clam Chowder, but would prefer it in GIF form for infinite-looped hilarity, check out Giphy. The site is a Supercompressor favorite, and in my opinion the easiest platform to make good-looking, easily sharable GIFs with the adoring public.


19. Become a better writer
If one day, you’d like to take my job from me, or at least just get better at composing your Facebook rants, check out Macalester College’s excellent online course/video series dedicated to honing writing skills. Before watching, I was actually illiterate. Please don’t tell my editor.

20. Learn how to appreciate poetry, with a course by a published author
If you are one of those guys who desperately wants to be artsy-fartsy (like James Franco), but a proper understanding of poetry has always just zoomed over your head (like James Franco), check out this Yale course taught by published poet Langdon Hammer. Discover why a rose, by any other name, would still smell just as sweet. Unless you called them stink blossoms, obviously.

21. Get a crash course in Philosophy, from an actual philosopher
As someone who spent thousands of dollars on a Philosophy degree (I also have a business degree, so don’t make fun of me please) it pains me to see a course as well-curated as this one available free of charge to anyone with a computer. It’s legit, therefore I’m pissed.


22. Master Photoshop
YouTube is a stellar place to learn Photoshop basics, because you can see people using it in real time. Out of all the clustercuss of videos out there, the bluntly-titled You Suck At Photoshop series sets itself apart as the most comprehensive and entertaining way to learn how to photoshop Scarlett Johansson out of your dreams and into your vacation photos.


23. Draw like a real artist
I have never been a gifted artist. In fact, I can barely sign my signature without punching a hole through the receipt. But that shouldn’t stop you, reader, from joining a site like Drawspace, which features hundreds of online lessons for free. With classes ranging from “beginner” to “advanced,” artists of every skill level can hone their craft between shifts at Starbucks.

24. Learn how to program an awesome mobile game
If you’ve ever wasted an entire weekend playing Temple Run, or an entire lifetime playing Kim Kardashian: Hollywood, you know just how important mobile gaming has become in our world. If you’d like to try your hand at designing your own game, but don’t know where to start, this online course offered by the University of Reading will get your toes wet in the mobile gaming world.

25. Work out like a personal trainer
Finding info online about working out is just about as easy as finding pictures of Paris Hilton naked. Finding legitimate work-out advice online is just about as easy as finding pictures of Conrad Hilton naked. But AskTheTrainer is a respectably thorough site that gives you a multitude of workouts, isolating every muscle group in your body. It’s not as good as a real life personal trainer, obviously, but if you don’t mind a few annoying pop-ups, it’s one of best free site on the web for working out. Another option is BodBot—a de-facto online personal nutritionist and exercise coach. It’s not as polished as some options with a price tag…but hey, it’s free.


26. Win every argument, even if you are wrong
If you are the kind of person that likes to argue with people, even if you know for a fact that you are 100% wrong, this site will come in handy: Austhink. It will teach you to win arguments you have no right winning. This shouldn’t be allowed. Don’t argue with me.

27. Learn how to repair your ride
AutoEducation: Your mechanic hates this site! As they would say, on the the Internet.

28. Finally understand finance, with help from a tenured professor
Finance is a fickle, complicated beast. In order to get a grasp on the world of financial things (like money), you can turn to this University of Michigan course to help wrap your mind around the world of currency, and all that it entails.

29. Become a Yogi
There’s a glut of Yoga advice out there. But it’s best to get your moments of serenity by people who are proven to be chock full of positive karma—like Yome. If your downward facing dog is more akin to face-first-in-the-dirt, you might want to check out their library of free videos to namaste for days.

30. Get a crash course on Excel
It isn’t the most exciting offering on this list, but basic Excel knowledge is pretty much a must for every job that doesn’t involve a deep fryer. Chandoo is benevolent enough to spread their Excel wisdom with the general public. You best take advantage of their generosity.

 

*The list was originally compiled by Wil Fulton and appeared for an online magazine. 

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6 Ways To Improve Linkedins’ Functionality For Its Users

Editors note: I wrote this entire post on my phone while sitting in gridlock traffic on 680. It was spawned after (re)reading Dr. Golemans article on Linkedin and it’s entrepreneurial spirit of providing a global platform for its users to share knowledge, ideas and themselves.   I am sure the geniuses at Linkedin have already thought about this stuff but I thought it may be worth writing about.  I am also not quite sure what type of response this will receive if any but here it goes. One last piece: I want to stress that I am not a coder nor play one in real life. 

Those who know me, know I am a huge fan and supporter of Linkedin both on and offline. Online, I use their technology daily to grow both my professional network as well as my personal mission and passion to support others in their own personal and professional development. Offline, Linkedin is blazing a trail as a champion of workplace culture and the development of their employees.

Upon reading a recent article by someone I respect, admire and follow — Dr. Goleman passionately wrote about not only his admiration for Mr. Weiners company and platform but laid out what he thought could provide Linkedin and it’s users the opportunity to make a more positive impact in the world. After reading and rereading his post, I immediately began brainstorming how might my own Linkedin experience expand into new areas allowing further connectivity and opportunity for its users.

1) inKED
This would be a function similar to a www.change.org where people who are passionate about a certain cause could start their own Petition directly from their profile.

2) inVEST
This would be a function designed to Crowd Fund for a possible project or business initiative you and/or your company are starting.

3) inCROWD
This would be a function designed to create your own Advisory Board. By either looking through your contacts or searching for people you would like to be on your board, these people would have displayed a certain icon or mark that tells you they are not only open to being on a board but have potentially met certain criteria to legitimize their candidacy to be elected by another Linkedin user.

4) inVOLVE
Playing directly off of Dr. Goleman’s thoughts for playing up the good deeds and Volunteerism of it’s users – allow others to share their interest with another users cause or platform allowing for not only an exchange of ideas but support for something bigger than just one person. If a user saw on another persons profile that they were involved in a specific cause that resonated with them, they would have the opportunity to click and connect with that persons specific need.

5) inSIGHT
This function would allow you to post a project, assignment, problem statement or something you and/or your company is working on and is looking for new and fresh Ideas. The user could post something directly to their profile or to another section similar to a pulse where any user could offer up their input, advice, insight or direction. Similar to many companies who practice this type of forum such as IDEO as a way to engage in a broader population of both support and connectivity.

6) inFINITY
This function would allow any user to nominate or highlight someone from their network on their profile page who went above and beyond the call of duty. In the same vein as many news channels highlight a local Hero; someone in the community doing something great in terms of giving back – this could be the same concept but within the Linkedin community of users. The name speaks to the endless loop of giving and the gift of being selfless. This could be done anonymously similar to how many companies internally promote other employees or openly.

I am truly not sure what I expect if anything from posting this but I do know one thing – and that is Linkedin does provide its’ users the opportunity to speak openly and express themselves while laying down the foundation for people to voice their ideas. Thank you Jeff Weiner and the entire Linkedin population for creating such a wonderful and powerful place to open ones mind and explore what’s possible.

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194 Inspiring Sayings To Get You Through The Last 194 Days in 2015

  1. Life is short and there is no time to leave important words unsaid.
  2. What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
  3. Seek respect, not attention. It last longer.
  4. Remember why you started.
  5. Today, prove them wrong.
  6. The first step to getting what you want is having the courage to get rid of what your don’t.
  7. Challenge yourself with something you know you could never do, and what you’ll find is that you can overcome anything.
  8. Forget all the reasons why it didn’t work and believe the one reason why it will!
  9. Appreciate good people. They are hard to come by.
  10. Train your mind to see the good in every situation.
  11. The only person you should try to be better than, is the person you were yesterday.
  12. Don’t compare yourself to others but be inspired by them.
  13. The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.
  14. It’s not happy people who are thankful. It’s thankful people who are happy.
  15. There is someone who has less than you that is happier.
  16. The dream is free. The hustle is sold separately.
  17. Wake Up and Be Awesome.
  18. Relax. Breathe. Trust. Nothing gets away that is meant to be yours.
  19. Everything happens for a reason.
  20. We make our choices, then our choices make us.
  21. Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.
  22. Worrying will never change the outcome.
  23. Haters will see you walk on water and say its because your can’t swim.
  24. You have never really until you have done something for someone who can never repay you
  25. Decide. Commit. Succeed.
  26. The real measure of wealth is how much you would be worth if you lost all your money.
  27. It’s not how good you are, it’s how good you want to be.
  28. There are seven days in the week and someday isn’t one of them.
  29. Have you ever met a hater doing better than you? Me neither.
  30. Anything can be done.
  31. Life is the art of drawing without an eraser.
  32. Live in the moment.
  33. If it doesn’t nourish your soul, get rid of it.
  34. Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.
  35. I am strong. I am healthy. I am calm.
  36. Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.
  37. Sometimes you have to stop worrying, wondering & doubting. Have faith that things will work out and maybe not how you planned but just how it’s meant to be.
  38. Will it be easy? Nope. Is it worth it? Absolutely.
  39. Only put people on your team who are willing to work harder than you.
  40. Never be the smartest person in the room.
  41. Some people want it to happen. Some wish it would happen. Others make it happen. Which one are you?
  42. All or nothing.
  43. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality. Upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.
  44. Never quit. If you stumble get back up. What happened yesterday no longer matters. Today is another day so get back on track and move closer to your dreams and goals.
  45. The pain that you’ve been feeling can’t compare to the joy that’s coming.
  46. Surround yourself with people who believe in your dreams.
  47. How long will you watch other do what you want to do?
  48. Do it for the people who want to see you fail.
  49. Nothing will work unless you do.
  50. Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.
  51. Compliment people. Magnify their strengths, not their weaknesses.
  52. When writing the story of your life, don’t let anyone else hold the pen.
  53. Pain makes you stronger. Fear makes you braver. Heartbreak makes you wiser.
  54. Not everyone is going to want, accept or know how to receive your energy. Make peace with that and keep on.
  55. Believe you can and you are half way there.
  56. The best is yet to come.
  57. Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.
  58. Think about why you started.
  59. Today you will create magic.
  60. Your vibe attracts your tribe.
  61. Most of the stuff people worry about never happens.
  62. The best project you will ever work on is you.
  63. You. Are. Enough. Let me repeat that so it goes through. You. Are. Enough.
  64. You are worth it.
  65. People inspire you, or they drain you – pick them wisely.
  66. Think of you life as a house. Can you knock down the walls between the rooms and be the same person in each of them?
  67. The sign of a beautiful person is they they always see beauty in others.
  68. I would rather have a life of “oh wells” than a life of what ifs.
  69. Don’t look back, you’re not going that way.
  70. Master the art of observing.
  71. If you woke up without a goal, go back to sleep.
  72. Be strong. You never know who you are inspiring.
  73. You have a choice. You can throw in the towel, or you can use it to wipe the sweat off your face.
  74. Thinking you are better than anyone just proves you aren’t. Stay humble.
  75. Smiling increases your face value.
  76. Hard work doesn’t feel like hard work when you love what you are doing.
  77. Surround yourself with those who act like rockets to your ship.
  78. Discipline is remembering what you want.
  79. Be with someone who brings out the best in you.
  80. You create beauty with your attitude, behavior and actions – it’s all up to you.
  81. Smile and let everyone know that today, you are  a lot stronger than you were yesterday.
  82. Work hard in silence let success make the noise.
  83. Don’t confuse my personality with my attitude. My personality is who I am. My attitude depends on who you are
  84. Good things take time.
  85. If you can’t stop thinking about it, don’t stop working for it.
  86. Take time to be quiet and be with your inner thoughts.
  87. Spending today complaining about yesterday won’t make tomorrow any better.
  88. Be with someone who is proud to have you.
  89. Be who you are and say what you feel because those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter.
  90. Not to self: Stop expecting.
  91. Stop looking for happiness in the same place that you lost it.
  92. Don’t judge my choices without understanding my reasons.
  93. A lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinions of a sheep.
  94. See the light in others and treat them as if that is all you see
  95. How you do anything is how you do everything.
  96. Holding a grudge is letting someone live rent free in your head.
  97. Dress how you would like to be addressed.
  98. Surround yourself with people that force you to do better.
  99. Sometimes is best to react with no reaction
  100. Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.
  101. If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission.
  102. Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end.
  103. Some days you just have to create your own sunshine.
  104. I am the most powerful tool in my life and will use it daily.
  105. If you stumble, make it part of the dance.
  106. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.
  107. If you have to keep wondering where you stand with someone. It may be time to stop standing and start walking.
  108. Time waits on no one. Get up and get it.
  109. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.
  110. Inhale the future, exhale the past.
  111. Blowing out someone else candles doesn’t make yours shine any brighter.
  112. I will not let anyone walk though my mind with their dirty feet.
  113. Don’t let someone dim your let simply because it’s shinning in their eyes.
  114. Your biggest risk will be the one you don’t take.
  115. If you don’t give up, you still have a chance.
  116. Examine what you tolerate.
  117. Just do it.
  118. You can if think you can.
  119. Life doesn’t happen to us, it happens from us.
  120. You are not born a winner; you are born a loser. You are born a chooser.
  121. When was the last time you did something for the first time?
  122. Never let someone waste your time, twice.
  123. Be careful who you trust, if someone will discuss other with you, they will certainly discuss you with others.
  124. You’ve got 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to smile?
  125. You can’t build a good reputation on what you are going to do.
  126. Admire without jealousy. Praise without flattery. Follow without imitating. Lead without manipulating.
  127. Mindset is everything.
  128. It’s better to fail in originality than fail in imitation.
  129. Try being informed instead of being opinionated.
  130. Entertain a clown and you become part of the circus.
  131. The only place success comes before work is in the dictionary.
  132. Knowing others is wisdom. Knowing yourself is enlightenment.
  133. What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?
  134. Work until your bank account looks like a phone number.
  135. There are so many reasons to be happy. Can you find a few?
  136. You aren’t wealthy until you have something money can’t buy.
  137. Don’t ever mistake my silence for ignorance, my calmness for acceptance and my kindness for weakness.
  138. The word listen and silent contain the same letters. Think about it.
  139. Comparison is the thief of joy.
  140. If the words you spoke appeared on your skin, would you still be beautiful?
  141. If you could write a note to your younger self, what would you say in only two words?
  142. A little rebellion now and then is good thing.
  143. Travel brings power and love back to your life.
  144. Sometimes you have to forget what you want to remember what you deserve.
  145. Today I am grateful because (_______)
  146. Be a fruitloop in a world of cheerios.
  147. Don’t quit your day dream.
  148. Smart over swag (all the time).
  149. You should not have to rip yourself to pieces to keep others whole.
  150. When you take things for granted, the things you are granted are taken.
  151. Fear is nothing more than an obstacle that stands in the way of progress.
  152. Simplicity is the ultimate form of sophistication.
  153. Always be a first rate version of yourself versus a second rate version of someone else.
  154. Happiness is an inside job, don’t assign that much power over you.
  155. Sometimes you have to care less to see if they will care more.
  156. Make today so awesome that yesterday gets jealous.
  157. When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you will find success.
  158. Don’t say maybe if you want to say no.
  159. Mistakes are proof that you are trying.
  160. The best way to predict the future is to create it.
  161. Never give up on something you can’t go a day without thinking about.
  162. If it’s important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse
  163. The ones who say “you can’t” and “you won’t” are probably the ones scared that “you will”
  164. Remember that person who gave up? Neither does anybody else.
  165. It never gets easier, you just get better
  166. Today I will do what others won’t, so tomorrow I can what others can’t.
  167. Never say never because limits, like fears, are often just an illusion.
  168. The pain you feel today will be the strength you feel tomorrow.
  169. Every accomplishment start with the decision to try.
  170. Don’t give up, the beginning is the always the hardest.
  171. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
  172. It doesn’t matter if you win as long as you give everything in your heart.
  173. Every champion was once a contender who refused to give up.
  174. Winners never quit and quitters never win.
  175. We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason.
  176. You only live once but if you do it right, once is enough.
  177. Everybody wants to be a diamond but very few are willing to get cut.
  178. Life always offers you a second chance. It’s called tomorrow.
  179. Forget what hurt you but never forget what it taught you.
  180. Somedays you are the bug, some days you are the windshield.
  181. Never reply when you are angry. Never make a promise when you are happy. Never make a decision when you are sad.
  182. Appreciate everything you have.
  183. Never regret. If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s an experience.
  184. Be who you are and say how you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
  185. Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress about the future, it’s not here yet. Focus on the present as it’s all you have.
  186. Smile is the most beautiful attire that never goes out of style.
  187. Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Take the moment and make it perfect.
  188. A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success in life.
  189. Your life is your message to the world, make sure it’s inspiring.
  190. An ugly personality ruins a pretty face.
  191. You’ve got what it takes, but it will take everything you’ve got.
  192. If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.
  193. There is no elevator to success. You have to take the stairs.
  194. Believing in yourself is the first secret to success.
what are those two words for you

I’ve got two words for you.

* I originally posted this article – my first Pulse piece months ago. I am updating and adding to it due to some new and unfortunate circumstances.

Yesterday, I received the dreaded call I knew was coming but was hoping it wouldn’t. At 8:31am PST on Thursday October 1st, my grandmother – “Grandma Esther” passed away. She was my last living grandparent and her loss has been traumatic on many levels. Part of my writing this addition is one way I can channel my grieving into something productive and healing. Esther was many things to many people but for me – she was a friend, a mentor and a voice of honest loving truth. She will be sorely missed and my heart is heavy today.

The 2 words I have you Grandma are: THANK YOU.

Love, your grandson.

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It’s no secret that it’s not just the power of our voice but rather the words we choose that create an impact both in our lives and the lives of the people around us. Words move us in many ways both good and bad. Words can bring people together or tear them apart. In short, words are power and powerful.

When I was only 21, I lost my father to cancer. Not one day goes by where I don’t think about him and the lessons he taught me along the way. In particular, he told me to “always believe”. To this day I still remember as if he was whispering it to me in my ear when I doubted myself or my ability to achieve something. Those two words have always driven me to move forward and reminded me to not only believe in myself but others as well as possibilities in life.

Sure there were other positive two words phrases along the way that I remember but “always believe” was one of the most powerful. He always had a way with words and those words provided me with a renewed sense that all would be okay in the world. It was as if he knew exactly what to say and when to say it.

Today I am the proud father of an amazing three year old boy and even as I write this post, I am thinking carefully about the words I choose in the event one day he may read this. Choosing the right words at the right time seems to be a daily challenge but I think back to my father and what he modeled for me as a guide for what I want my son to remember as he grows up and reflects back on the words I used with him. This bring me to what I believe is a powerful question about the words we choose.

If you could write a note to your younger self, what would you say in only two words?